A few blog posts ago I mentioned that neither Herm nor I could remember the last time we had went on a date, just the two of us. It's something we want to improve on this year; we've set money aside in our monthly budget, so really, we have no excuses. I've got a little black dress that he loves to see me in, and the only time I ever wear it is on date night... (So if you're reading this babe, and it's been a little while since you last saw me wearing that thing, maybe make a reservation somewhere.)
There are a few ladies I follow on Instagram (this one in particular) who make dating their spouse high priority. I think its the sweetest, most sexy thing ever. I love when couples seem to grow closer and more in love as time moves on. It takes intention for that to happen, because if you aren't setting time aside to get to know your spouse better in this season of life, life really does have a way of filling up with good things that will call for your every waking minute.
Sometimes you have to say no to the good, so you are able to say yes to the best.
We spend a lot of time together, Herm and I, but we're going to try to be more intentional about time together. Alone.
One thing we've done several times though in the past year, because it's cheaper than counseling, but also because we truly to love these couples and enjoy spending time with them, is to ask friends -- ones older and wiser than us -- out to dinner.
We pick their brains about family and marriage and business and community -- because we see fruit in their lives, evidence of what intentionality and cultivating character qualities can do, and we want to learn and grow from their life experiences too -- then we pay their bill.
Like I said, it's cheaper than counseling.
We've got a serial killer-like list of specific couples we're planning to target: The ones who seem to do life well. The ones who have marriages that created the hashtag, #MarriageGoals. The ones who have good relationships with their kids. The ones who have businesses. The ones who love to travel. The ones involved in serving their church and their communities.
Really, the list is endless. We choose people based off of things we know they are skilled at or have done well at, that are areas we want to grow in.
Who knows, your name might even be on there.
Our lives are richer and more meaningful because of it, and even though we're planning to go on dates with just the two of us more often this year, our double-dating is something we don't want to give up.
If you don't have a list like this, of people you're planning to target, start thinking about it. I don't think you'll regret it, we certainly don't!